My dear mom
friends, I know…you don’t need to tell me! You love your kids to the moon and
back. You sacrifice your needs for theirs all the time but at the same time,
you’re longing for something more than laundry, math homework, sibling fights
and toddler tantrums.
Hi, I’m
Barb Naisby, I’m a Brit living in Mexico. I’m also a mom, grandma, author and
entrepreneur and when my kids were young, I felt just like you. I’m here to
help you find a way to get self-fulfillment without feeling the guilt of doing
something for yourself. Something that creates a buzz in your life, increases
your feeling of self-worth and in turn will make you more tolerant of your
parenting duties.
If you’re
listening live, let me know where you’re tuning in from or if you’re on replay,
drop a #Replay in the comments and add where you’re from.
I know that
taking care of your children is, and should be, one of your top parenting
priorities and bringing up your kids to be caring, respectful human beings is
an admirable achievement. But, do you think this should be your only priority
for a full 18 years of your life until they’re officially adults? And what if
there’s a significant age gap between your children? You can add on a good few
years to the original 18!
I wasn’t a
bad parent. Truth is, I was bored and stressed if I had to spend too much time
playing make-believe, entertaining fractious kids on a wet, rainy day or
intervening in sibling arguments. I longed for space and time to read but more
than anything, I longed to be back at work. Does this make me a selfish mum?
Obviously,
you’re going to take care of the basic needs of your children first but what do
you think happens when you sacrifice your own needs to get your children to yet
another event or party?
Yep, you
start to feel stressed and resentful that you, once again, have sacrificed the
time you put aside to look after YOU!
You know, if
your personal needs are not met – we’re talking here about physical, mental,
nutritional, spiritual and sleep needs – you cannot parent to your best
ability. You are NOT being selfish, you are being HUMAN.
If this
makes sense to you, drop me a fire emoji in the comments.
If you’re feeling guilty for thinking this way, try this experiment. Next time
your with your mom friends, ask this question…” Do any of you ever feel the
need to go back to work to give yourself back your self esteem? Do you need to
be more than just a mom?’ I’ll bet my last $ you have heads nodding in
agreement. But nobody wanted so say anything for fear of being presumed
selfish.
It is so
important for you to realize that having work or hobbies that do not involve
the kids will help you to feel like the woman you were pre children. And the
woman you will be when your children are grown.
If you lose
YOU in the process of being MOM, what will you have left in your life when
they’ve all flown the coop?
Let’s chat
about this! Leave me your thoughts in the comments and get a discussion going.
Love to all
you moms…Barb